Eternal Quest for Happiness: A Practical Guide to Fulfilling Dreams - could also have been called Looking for Happiness in All the Wrong Places: Simple Steps to Fulfilling Dreams. We - Aeeshah and Kokomon Clottey- propose that we're like a cat looking for its tail, going around and around in circles hoping to find what it already has. As we discussed in our earlier book Beyond Fear: Twelve Spiritual Keys to Racial Healing, the key to happiness is rooted in this wisdom: "The essence of our being is love." The key point is that if we look at life through the lens of love, we inevitably find happiness.